Dropping a few shoulds.

The last few days taught me a lot about myself. It brought me face to face with Ms. Theorist in me. Interestingly, Ms. Act took birth and won her over.

Ms. Theorist moves around with a book of definitions in hand. She has an ideal defined for every situation and person. She pauses in time to open her book and read out the ideal definition against which the situation or person is to be compared. So, is that wrong? Is not a striving for the ideal the basis for incessant improvement?
No, it’s not. Don’t get me wrong. All I ask of Ms. Theorist is to change her attitude. Why does it have to be an all or none? Has Ms. Theorist come across a single situation/person which was “all” perfect? A situation / person which is “all” perfect will stop growing and won’t the staleness that ensues make it imperfect. Does n’t Ms. Theorist recognize that the non acceptance of anything but the best from a situation/person outside of her rob her of the learning she can have from the situation/person Ms. Theorist is in/with? The time is less even to learn what even the “Not-so-perfect” situation/person has to teach. Yet, why does Ms. Theorist shake her head in refusal till a situation/person became picture perfect? Ms.Theorist should let Ms. Act lead. Because Ms. Act knows that Ms. Myself will not move if she just stays a “judge” of the situation/person. Prolonged “judgement” will only take her out of the setting. The sense of separateness from the situation/person will make her unable to reach out to the situation/person. The inability to influence will further increase her resistance. Ms. Theorist should call Ms. Act before Ms. Judge follows. Because Ms. Judge cannot help it. As a Miss, she always misjudges J. The Power of Now will tell you that Ms. Surrender works well too in situations where Ms. Act does not apply.

Reminds me of a paragraph from the poem, “Psalm of Life”:

“Not enjoyment, and not sorrow;
Is our destined end or way ;
But to act, that each to-morrow;
Find us farther than to-day.”

And

“Trust no Future, howe'er pleasant !
Let the dead Past bury its dead !
Act,— act in the living Present !
Heart within, and God o'erhead !”
Adios!